"HammerheadFistpunch" (hammerheadfistpunch)
11/12/2018 at 10:38 • Filed to: rant
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"HammerheadFistpunch" (hammerheadfistpunch)
11/12/2018 at 10:38 • Filed to: rant | 2
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I don’t normally do this and I wont include links or names so don’t go vigilante on anyone but man alive this rubbed me wrong. Picture buffer of the relevant type.
The setup is that i mentioned the only time someone threw up in my car they were watching a movie.
You can always tell when someone isn’t a parent when they give razor sharp parenting advice like this.
If you know where this comment lives, don’t be a dick about it. Oppo has rules about stirring the shit and I don’t mean for people to go pile it on the guy. Just ranting.
WilliamsSW
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 10:49 |
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As someone who became a father pretty late in life (48), you are 120% spot on that the commenter doesn’t have kids (or is just a flat out troll).
It’s all sooooo easy - if you haven’t done it.
HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 10:52 |
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I mean this person has a point, less screen time is a good thing.
I understand if you felt personally attacked tho.
farscythe - makin da cawfee!
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 10:53 |
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welp... if i make another one... im definitely upgrading a tv in to whatever car i have then.... anything that keeps the backrow quiet and happy is a-ok by me
(course the one i have is 16 now soo the backseat is mostly quiet and moody now... also a-ok by me)
HoustonRunner
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 10:55 |
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Or you can point out that you were enriching their world views. My wife was driving my 8 year old twin boys back from camping Sunday morning and they requested to watch Big Trouble in Little China. I take that as a win in my book.
Not everything on a screen is bad.
vicali
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 10:55 |
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Everyone has an opinion, parents think about the effect of their words before they say them..
Our screens go up for road trips, anything over 3 hours away is a loooong time for kiddos to sit through.
The comment or obviously hasn’t seen any of your posts with your fantastic kids.
TheRealBicycleBuck
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 10:59 |
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In-car video systems are life-savers on long trips with small children. Kids that small have no concept of time, so they can’t understand when we tell them it will be a couple of hours before we get to our destination. However, they get it when you tell them that they get to watch Frozen, then eat lunch and play at the park, then watch Cars and when it’s over w e’ll be at grandma’s house!
A 12-hour drive is hard on a kid.
OPPOsaurus WRX
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 11:06 |
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my wife has gotten criticism for allowing our kids to watch a phone or tablet, big surprise , it was from people with no kids . I think there is a big difference with the way things are today. Smart phones are everywhere and used all the time. Kids see this and copy what adults do.
but i ts not all bad. my daughter started copying some gymnast on YouTube and asked to get into gymnastics. On her first class the instructor bumped her up a skill level and said she should be on their competitive team.
Do my kids spend too much time on the tablets, probably, but they still go outside and play with the neighborhood kids. We try to limit the time, but sometimes the situation calls for a ‘fuck it heres the phone’. These are probably the same people who would say, how hard is it to keep a kid quiet in a restaurant. Its not hard, hand them a phone. Thats how it is today.
For Sweden
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 11:10 |
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Stop letting your kids consume passive video media! Make them consume passive text media instead!
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WilliamsSW
> HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles
11/12/2018 at 11:14 |
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Is their statement factually correct? Sure.
Is it an appropriate response to someone talking about a long drive back from a camping trip with their kids? Hell no.
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farscythe - makin da cawfee!
> For Sweden
11/12/2018 at 11:21 |
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i love to read... that said.. reading in a moving car makes me carsick... i think thats pretty common
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farscythe - makin da cawfee!
> For Sweden
11/12/2018 at 11:21 |
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i love to read... that said.. reading in a moving car makes me carsick... i think thats pretty common
yamahog
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 11:23 |
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“constantly receiving unsolicited parenting advice” is definitely in my top 10 list of reasons I don’t envy that job and I think you handled that one just fine.
davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 11:40 |
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Father of three here, who has zero issues with letting the kids enter “zombie mode” on long road trips.
“Give... kids less screen time on anything and their lives will improve significantly.” This may be an objectively true statement, but there’s no reason for his next line, especially when it’s easy to be viewed as an indictment.
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HammerheadFistpunch
> davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com
11/12/2018 at 11:41 |
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That’s the gist of it.
DipodomysDeserti
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 11:57 |
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Good par ents are too terrified of thinking of all the ways they’re screwing their own kids up to insert themseves into the parenting choices of others.
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HammerheadFistpunch
> HoustonRunner
11/12/2018 at 12:12 |
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Hells yes
CobraJoe
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 12:12 |
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You can always tell when someone isn’t a parent when they give razor sharp parenting advice like this.
Even worse is advice from a new parent. A non-parent is easy to ignore, a new parent, hey they have some experience!
Problem is, their advice is only useful for their kid. It probably won’t work on any other kid, whether they’re the same age or not.
Any parent with 2 or more kids knows this already.
Honestly, I don’t remember the last time I got unsolicited advice about parenting from a parent with 2 or more kids.
Highlander-Datsuns are Forever
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 12:41 |
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I don’t have in car video but would use it If I had it. Shit I’d make my wife drive while the three of us sat in back watching star wars movies. Our last big road trip we listened to a Clive Cussler novel on cd. It was actually quite good at keeping everyone entertained.
smobgirl
> farscythe - makin da cawfee!
11/12/2018 at 12:53 |
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Yeah, growing up Mom’s car had the “puke seat” because a few of her kids tried to read on a road trip. Bad idea.
BigBlock440
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 13:48 |
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Have 2 kids, agrees with the comment. Just came back from a weekend camping trip yesterday with a 3-1/2 year old and an 18 month old, neither had screens. The older one actually stayed awake the whole ride. She played with her fingers like puppets, looked for bears out the window, and talked to us. It makes long trips much more enjoyable when they are able to entertain themselves. Age though has more to do with screen time being bad IMO, and people seem to treat “kids” as a one-size-fits all category even though developmental requirements are vastly different for a toddler than for a teenager.
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HammerheadFistpunch
> BigBlock440
11/12/2018 at 14:02 |
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with what comment?
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BigBlock440
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 14:07 |
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Less screen time is good for kids.
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HammerheadFistpunch
> BigBlock440
11/12/2018 at 14:10 |
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I don’t disagree with the first part. Its the second part that honks me off. Though I will say that its about 4-5 years old where kids start having trouble with paying attention in the car. Maybe you just haven’t started to experience that yet.
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BigBlock440
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 14:22 |
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I know how my sister’s kids act without the presence of a screen (one’s 3, one’s 6), I’m hoping mine are trained well enough. If not, I can tune them out and they’ll just have to put up with it . I didn’t see the rest of the thread to get context, but I also agree with the second part that our kids are being raised in the worse ways these days, and am really not looking forward to the days when they go out and interact with everybody else’s little hoodlums on their own and erase all of the manners and politeness we’ve instilled so far. Oh well, it’s got to happen at some point, I just hope we get lucky and they wind up with a good group of friends.
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HammerheadFistpunch
> BigBlock440
11/12/2018 at 14:25 |
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I’m so sorry your children with have to deal with the rest of our poorly raised kids. Mus t be tough.
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BigBlock440
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/12/2018 at 14:31 |
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I’m sure it will be. Other kids will have a much bigger influence and impact on your kids than parents do at some point, hope you don’t find that out too late. I’m sure it will be tough, as most aspects of parenting are.
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HammerheadFistpunch
> BigBlock440
11/12/2018 at 14:38 |
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See I think you miss the offense because you are doing the same thing. the insinuation that n ot my way = the wrong way is...to put in kindly...crap. hope you don’t find that out too late.
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BigBlock440
> HammerheadFistpunch
11/14/2018 at 09:16 |
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You’re taking offense where there is none, it’s a societal “we”, not “you”. I readily acknowledge that each child is different and could require different methods, it’s the results that tell you whether or not it was the right way. As long as they turn out to be a respectful, productive member of society, it’s fine. I can also acknowledge that there are wrong ways to do it before we ever see the results. We certainly have not been trending in the right direction, collectively. Just on the screen time part in the original comment, study after study proves that too much is bad for kids hindering their development. From the screenshot, i t looks like somebody tried to give you helpful advice, then you turned around with an insult to them.
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HammerheadFistpunch
> BigBlock440
11/14/2018 at 14:20 |
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You know, the paint doesn’t need to know its paint to affect a stain.
As I said to them - you surely meant well but did indeed offend.
It wasn’t just me that sees it. Maybe instead of justify you should evaluate why so many say it as offense.